tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2875374140951320807.post5061820749343545030..comments2014-01-04T01:19:29.423-08:00Comments on The Alchemy of Grief: Moments of ClarityJenaleahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12261755444027839026noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2875374140951320807.post-68212843722873561372012-04-10T19:00:50.231-07:002012-04-10T19:00:50.231-07:00I love reading your blog. I do it over and over. ...I love reading your blog. I do it over and over. Everything you said makes perfect sense. I feel the exact same way at times. I wonder how it's going to feel when I'm pregnant with my rainbow. Thank you, again, for sharing. You make me feel so...normal.Melissa Caohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08327827805021561788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2875374140951320807.post-13391905997545269122012-04-03T10:14:07.641-07:002012-04-03T10:14:07.641-07:00Jenalea,
I think your feelings are totally valid....Jenalea,<br /><br />I think your feelings are totally valid. While i am not on my next pregnancy journey yet, I often think about how when we do have another baby it will be like mothering two children and not just one. Not in a way that makes them the same person but by the fact that I will think about Cora and wonder if it would have been like this with her and get a chance to feel what it may have been like with her. With everything you do with Jack, Marc will still be there. You will love him as you love Jack. I would not feel guilty for it seems like it is very real to you that this baby is not Marc, even if the occasional confusion arises.<br /><br />AimeeAimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03269559995158227217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2875374140951320807.post-2323821782337633562012-04-02T18:31:01.837-07:002012-04-02T18:31:01.837-07:00Thank you! I talked to Amber Z from mend and she s...Thank you! I talked to Amber Z from mend and she said she looks at her rainbow and thinks how much they look alike and things like that. She gave some good advice. She said that there will be times when you are tired and you wake up to feed Jack and you are half asleep and you might think for a split second you are holding Marc but she told me not to feel guilty but to look at it as a blessing that we get a glimpse into what things might have been like. That was a much nicer way to think about it than thinking that I am trying to make Jack into Marc, which I am not trying to do. :)Jenaleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12261755444027839026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2875374140951320807.post-2652230314837392042012-04-02T14:13:23.876-07:002012-04-02T14:13:23.876-07:00While my situation is different, I have felt that ...While my situation is different, I have felt that way to. I now have my rainbow baby here with me,and while I couldn't be happier at times, he often makes me think of what I've lost. I think of how life would have been with her, or with the tow of them. It gets easier with time, and I think it was a little easier for me that my rainbow is a different gender than the baby I lost. While it gets easier it with time, the feeling never goes away.Ashley Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11606992792931726682noreply@blogger.com